When playing kinky both professionally and personally, aftercare might just be the most important part for both the dominant and the submissive play partners.
Aftercare tends to get looked over when it comes to the dominant personality, especially in the professional world. Typically we must take these measures into our own hands. In my dungeon, aftercare begins for both of us with a conversation about the scene we just had. I like to hold this space for open communication so that we can build on the experience next time. Before this conversation my submissive will typically take a shower if desired and I will address any inflictions with care and coconut oil.
My favorite form of aftercare is toking on a perfectly rolled joint or blunt. I usually come prepared with one of my own, but when my submissive thinks dearly of me and brings along a party favor for me to indulge in after they leave, I am a very happy dominatrix. Upon arrival I my home, I will take a warm bath and have a cup of tea to seal up my experience(s) that day.
A recent submissive and I had an aftercare conversation about how meditative subspace is, especially when it is so hard to escape the desire for control in your daily life. I shared that top space too is extremely meditative for me.
So what is stoicism? As found on Oxford Languages, stoicism is the endurance of pain or discomfort without showing hard feelings or expressing complaints. The ancient Greek school of philosophy taught that stoicism, like patience, is a virtue based on experiential knowledge that wise people live in harmony with divine reason. This concept governs nature and allows one to experience indifference or non-duality when it comes to the vicissitudes of fortune, pleasure, and pain.
When you join The Colorado School of Stoicism, Mistress Blair will ensure that you learn the basics so that you become better at enduring and enjoying life's hardships. It doesn't matter how much of a sissy you are as the curriculum will be tailored to your current tolerances. Each lesson begins with a warmup flogging or spanking. Together we analyze your limits and then push them just beyond extreme discomfort. After each session you will be more durable, strong, and willing to work through anything in life that causes physical or emotional pain.
You will have marks to reflect upon over the next few days. Each time you find a peek of yourself in the mirror you will be reminded of the experience. Bruises, redness, and cuts are medals to be worn with pride.
Do you think you can graduate? Mistress Blair has extremely high standards for her graduates. The degree of stoicism comes only after many lessons, sessions, and lashings. If you pass all of your pain exams by learning to observe that pain in silence you will get to have a delirious graduation party hosted by your headmistress.
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Below you will find thoughts from the one and only Mistress Blair Brooks, founder of The Colorado School of Stoicism.
The more intense the physical pain gets, the deeper into your psyche you are able to travel.
You will probably visit places of childhood trauma, emotional repression, and clarity. You might also find yourself unable to think of anything else but your current physical state. Maybe you'll even question reality, your sanity (or insanity), and how you found yourself naked, restrained, and receiving pain that you could never even fathom.
The most curious thing I am into is helping you break and grow from addiction though alternative physical endurance techniques. Pain is one of many ways to check the ego and guide it to where it needs to be. Pain can be a reward of bad behavior. Consider a session with me like confession. Tell me about your sins and relapses then I will provide an acceptable course of action to offset your poor choices.
There is no straight line of recovery. Once an addict, always an addict. You must treat yourself as so. Fluctuations occur, and I am here to help you tame those tangents so that you may once again find yourself on the path of healing and/or sobriety. Life becomes brighter after a dark session in my dungeon.